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Dear Love Doctor, 

am in love with a girl in my school.  I have been telling my bestfriend my feelings about her.  The other day, he told me he has been in love with her too!!!  I can't believe I trusted him with my secret.  Should I keep him as a friend or clip the cord because I can't trust him anymore.  

Francisco

I recently ran into my ex that left me when i was pregnant with his child. He's maried now (filing for divorce) with 3 kids and wants to pick up where we left off. I do love him and do want him back but not sure if it will work. What should I do?

Rita - Oakland

I saw my good friends boyfriend of 10 years  getting out of a car at a bus stop with another woman I thought it was my friend so I waved at them as i was driving by, then realized that it was another woman. He did see me but backed up against the wall with the lady. Should i call my friend and ask why didn't she wave back after I saw you at the bus stop, so that would open the door to whether she new what was going on. Ot may be nothing but he has in the past cheated on her a few times and I hate meddling but if it was me I would want to know.

(A concerned friend)

Why won't he grow up?   My Boyfriend and I have 2 kids and yet all he has are friends that have NO kids and he wants to hang out with them all night and weekends. And to make matters worse his Best Friend is Happy were breaking up He says "Well at least I have my friend back" Everyone says it If he's best Friend wasn't in the picture he would be ready to settle down??? What do I do, Do I stay and put up with him partying everynight or leave and let him and best Friend stay together forever.

Jay - Bay Area

I recently have become involved with a man whom confessed he has has a secret crush on me. The issue is that he has just broken up with his girl friend of a year just as he moved out she announces she is pregnant so there has been drama. We have been seeing each other for about 2 months it is still early I can't really call it a relationship yet but i enjoy being with him but I know the baby mama drama is going to increase once this child is born. She constantly calls has her family calling for anything this is causing a problem for me he seems not to be bothered he says he plans on being a responsbile father. So I think I should bow out gracefuly now before it goes any further but I  really like him, should I run for the hells now and keep it movin?

Tracy - Oakland

My husband of 4 year recently asked me to give up on my dream of becoming a famous singer.  Before we married he was aware of my aspirations.  He has suppported me for the most part up until recently.  He has finally found his nitch and wants me to come on board. I support him 100%, but I refuse to give up on my dream.  It's been a while since I've had any gigs, so he argues that I'm not benefitting the family, though we both work regular jobs as well.  so, should I stand my ground or give in?

I Just Want to Sing - East Bay

I'm married. Is it ok to have friends with benefits? My husband has no intimate feelings towards me.

Stephanie - San Francisco

My boyfriend recently went on vacation. The friend he claimed to go with, called the house looking for him while he was gone.  hmmm.  I keep asking him about the vacation and if he & his friend had a good time.  He keeps perpetuating the lie and conveniently "lost" his camera.  I am fed up.  Should I confront him or just say see ya later?

Jen - East Bay

My husband is a good man, good provider, encourages me in my career, good with the kids, so what's wrong?  Body odor.  They say love conquers all but I don't know what to do any more.  He showers, we've seen doctors but nothing seems to help.  It is almost a deal breaker.  I love my husband very much but when he comes home and hugs me, I am starting to  dread it.  He's fine right after he showers but couple of hours later, I almost need a gas mask.  I don't know what to do any more.  Any advice Love Doctor?

Jenny - Oakland

I've been married for 17 yrs.  The last 2 yrs my spouse goes out with friends (some married/some single) without me and doesn't come home until 3AM-4AM at least 2-3 times a month. My spouse doesn't see this as disrespect to me or the marriage. Is it asking too much to not go out so often and not stay out so late every time??

Finally Fed up in Benicia

I can't seem to meet any women.  I'm fairly good looking. I have a good job, and I actually own my own home.  I go to church, but the women there are either married or looking for a husband.  I just want to meet a nice woman to kick it with, and then if it happens.  I'm not looking to get married, but I'm not a player either.  Where do nice guys meet women? 

A Nice Guy

I'm having a difficult time with my boyfriend.  He tells me that he loves me and told me he doesn't want me to date other men, but my feeling is I can see who I want when I want.  We started off really well but I don't believe in exclusivity unless there is a ring on my finger. We've been together for two years, but I occasionally like to see who else is out there.  He says he's not seeing other women, and I believe him, but you know a girl's got to have options.  Am I being too hard on him?

Anon - San Francisco

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